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We can only pray and use God’s Word to chart the course for our children’s lives . At some point and time they must be responsible for their own detours.

*Eight pitfalls in Parenting

Pitfall # 1. Becoming a ____________ instead of an authority figure.

Solution # 1 Make sure you’re your _____________ understand that your authority supersede your friendship. Rules are good. (Friendship demands a co-equal relationship. Parenting is never a co-equal relationship. Ill. I can tell my son to clean his room, I can even punish him for not obeying , He can not have that same relationship with me. Young people have a tendency to turn friendships into bartering chips.)

Pitfall # 2 Being ______________ by comparison

Solution # 2 Let the child know we all have limitations . Praise them every chance you get. ( not every child can be a great athlete not every child can be a great musician)

Pitfall # 3. Threaten without ________________.

Solution # 3 Take _______________ if you say you will . ( ill. Christian)

Pitfall # 4. Discipline without _____________

Solution # 4 Let them know that ______________ of discipline is not a sign of love.

Pitfall # 5. Teaching them that materialism is more important than ____________.

Solution # 5 Decisions should always be _________________ with God in mind.

Pitfall # 6. Don’t ________________ others for your faults

Solution # 6 We should let our children know that God can help us _______________ our faults if we take responsibility for them.

Pitfall # 7. Be _________________ of the hero’s we put before our children.

Solution # 7 We should ___________________ our children about Bible hero’s or great people of faith.

Pitfall # 8. Don’t let the secular ____________________ replace your influence in the home.

Solution # 8 Make time for your children even if it’s not convenient . Don’t use the TV as a full time ___________________.

A Nazarite was to be ______________. (see Numbers 6:2-21)

A Nazarite was to be ___________________unto God

A Nazarite life was to be a disciplined _________________

1. Don’t drink any ________________ drink.

2. Don’t eat anything _________________ (according to Nu. 6:2-21 the Nazarite could not even touch any dead thing)

3. Don’t cut his ____________________.

        3. Rules are essential in ___________________order, God is a God of order.

        4. Rules lets us know the perimeters by which we must ____________________.

Three things Samson’s mother had to observe .

1. Don’t eat anything from the __________________.

2.Don’t drink any __________________ drink.

3. Don’t eat any unclean ____________________.

Samson’s first mistake. He thought he knew more about what he needed than his _____________________.

Mistake # 2 Samson would not consider his parents ___________________.

Can’t you find a girl from our youth _______________________ ?

The Devil will never give you God’s ______________________

Missionary dating has led to far more heartaches than ___________________

When you marry the unsaved you will have father-in-law ___________________ John 8:44

We as Christians should never use the world’s ___________________ to find God’s mate for our life.

1.Couples that live together are less _______________ than married spouses with their partnerships,

2.Are not as ___________________ to their parents,

3. Are ______________ committed to each other, if they eventually marry,

4. Have ______________chances of divorce" (Nock 1998: )

Individuals who live together before they marry face a significantly higher chance of getting divorced. Estimates of this divorce risk range from _______ (Cherlin 1992) to __________ (Bumpass and Sweet 1995).

Between ________ and _________ of new marriages now involve couples who have lived together first.

The divorce rate among those who once lived together is higher than among those who have not. Experts say that is often because those who choose to live together are not great believers in __________________ in the first place.

Less ____________________ men were particularly apt to be less committed.

Couples who attend church weekly are _________ less likely to divorce than couples who do not attend at all (Bumpass and Sweet 1995).

1. The presence of those who are less ______________________

2. Those who are less __________________

3. Partners are more _______________ than those who didn't live together.

4. They don’t believe in _________________in the first place

A 1996 Gallup poll found ________ of unmarried men would prefer to be married; _________ of unmarried women would

A government-funded survey of high schoolers, from 1996-2000, found ________ of senior boys believe marriage leads to a fuller and happier life; _________ of senior girls said so

A 1994 government-funded survey found _____ of unmarried men ages 18-35 want to get married; ______ of women agreed.

A 1994 government-funded survey found ______ of unmarried men ages 18-35 want to get married; _______ of women agreed.

From 1982 to 1988, the percentage of white female adolescent virgins fell from _____ to _____ percent. But the virginity rate among white female adolescents in conservative Protestant churches rose from ____ to _______ percent.

"Half of all children [in the U.S.] will witness the breakup of a parent’s marriage. Of these, close to half will also see the breakup of a parent’s second marriage." From 1979 to the present, more than two million adults __________ have gotten a divorce in America.

Divorce in America is a ________ billion-a-year industry.

From 1970 to 1994, the number of divorced ________ quadrupled, making "divorced persons" the fastest-growing marital status category in the United States. (60’s free love God is dead movement )

Between 1970 to 1975, the divorce rate rocketed upward by __________ .

1.To bring them to ____________ — Matthew 19:13,14

2. To _____________ them up for God — Proverbs 22:6;

3. Make God’s Word a key part of your ________ conversation — Deuteronomy 11:19; And ye shall teach them your children, speaking of them when  thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.

4.______________ your children that God is our source of protection and blessings. Psalms 78:4 We will not hide them from their children, shewing to the generation to come the praises of the LORD, and his strength, and his wonderful works that he hath done.

5. Have a ____________ and forgiving spirit — Psalms 103:13 Like as a father pitieth his children, so the LORD pitieth them that fear him.

6. We need to provide for their _________ not their greed’s. — 1 Timothy 5:8 But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel. ( This does not mean to give them every thing they want)

Sometime _______ does not do His will the way we think He ought to.

When a child goes ________ most parents blame themselves.

Parents lose more _____________ over your sin than you will.

Judges 14:5-6

Question # 1 Which ___________ did Samson go ?

Answer # 1 He went __________.

Question #2 Why was _____________ in the wrong place ?

Answer # 2 It was a _______________ of temptation.

Question #3 Why did God send the ______________ ?

Answer # 3 God sent the lion to _____________ him from temptation

Question #4 Why didn’t Samson tell his ______________ about the lion ?

Answer # 4 He was not to touch that which was ________________.

And he went down, and talked with the woman; and she pleased Samson well. And after a time he returned to take her, and he turned aside to see the carcase of the lion: and, behold, there was a swarm of bees and honey in the carcase of the lion. And he took thereof in his hands, and went on eating, and came to his father and mother, and he gave them, and they did eat: but he told not them that he had taken the honey out of the carcase of the lion.  Judges 14:7-9

*Among long-term prison inmates, _____________ grew up without fathers, as did ________ of rapists and _______of adolescents charged with murder.

* Fatherless ________ are three times more likely to fail school, require psychiatric treatment and commit suicide as adolescents.

*They are also up to 40 times more likely to experience _________ abuse compared with children growing up in two-parent families.
...Source: Wade Horn and Andrew Bush, "Fathers, Marriage, and Welfare Reform,"

So his father went down unto the woman: and Samson made there a feast; for so used the young men to do. Judges 14:10

Question: What was the ___________________ thing Samson was not suppose to do ?

And it came to pass, when they saw him, that they brought thirty companions to be with him. Judges 14:11

Samson didn’t chose his friends ______________ provided him with friends.

When you get outside the will of God, Satan _________________ you friends.

1. Real friends will never ask you to go against the ________________.

2. Friends sent from God will not be questioned by __________________ believers in God.

3. True friends from God will encourage you to be _______________ to the things of God.

4. A friend sent from God will not ask you to be ___________________

1. Hang out with questionable ______________.

This will cause your parents to question your friends , which will get on your nerves real quick.

2. __________ to them

This will get you interrogated every time you leave the house . This gets old fast.

3. Listen to _____________ or watch video’s that are unacceptable to your parents.

This will cause them to destroy tapes or outlaw them, now you can blame your parent for not understanding you.

4. Dress and speak __________________a subculture

This will concern your parents and they will put pressure on you . Then you can feel like they want except you for who you are. This will put a barrier between you and your parents.

5.Call them old man and old lady . Then you can tell your friends that your ________________want give you any respect.

And Samson said unto them, I will now put forth a riddle unto you: if ye can certainly declare it me within the seven days of the feast, and find it out, then I will give you thirty sheets and thirty change of garments:  But if ye cannot declare it me, then shall ye give me thirty sheets and thirty change of garments. Judges 14:12-13

Judges 14:13-14

2. Children of the __________ do not play fair.

3. The Devil’s crowd shows no ___________________.

And Samson’s wife wept before him, and said, Thou dost but hate me, and lovest me not: thou hast put forth a riddle unto the children of my people, and hast not told it me.  ill. Mother-in-law.)

And she wept before him the seven days, while their feast lasted: and it came to pass on the seventh day, that he told her, because she lay sore upon him: and she told the riddle to the children of her people. Judges 14:16-17

You don’t just marry a person you marry a ________________

The Question should be are you compatible by ________________ standards, as well as ____________ standards?

And his anger was kindled, and he went up to his father’s house. But Samson’s wife was given to his companion, whom he had used as his friend. Judges 14:18-20 (best man at a wedding)

But it came to pass within a while after, in the time of wheat harvest, that Samson visited his wife with a kid; and he said, I will go in to my wife into the chamber. But her father would not suffer him to go in. And her father said, I verily thought that thou hadst utterly hated her; therefore I gave her to thy companion: is not her younger sister fairer than she? take her, I pray thee, instead of her. Judges 15:1-2

Samson always ________________ others for his problems.

It took Samson 300 foxes to destroy the Philistines.

It took the Devil only one fox to destroy Samson and her name was Delilah .

Then went Samson to Gaza, and saw there an harlot, and went in unto her. And it was told the Gazites, saying, Samson is come hither. And they compassed him in, and laid wait for him all night in the gate of the city, and were quiet all the night, saying, In the morning, when it is day, we shall kill him. And Samson lay till midnight, and arose at midnight, and took the doors of the gate of the city, and the two posts, and went away with them, bar and all, and put them upon his shoulders, and carried them up to the top of an hill that is before Hebron. Judges 16:1-3 (38 miles)

When people get out of God’s will there is no ________________.

When people set a pattern of ____________________ dating they usually never change.

And it came to pass afterward, that he loved a woman in the valley of Sorek, whose name was Delilah. And the lords of the Philistines came up unto her, and said unto her, Entice him, and see wherein his great strength lieth, and by what means we may prevail against him, that we may bind him to afflict him; and we will give thee every one of us eleven hundred pieces of silver.  Judges 16:4-5

The ______________ crowd is always ready to pay the __________________ to see you destroyed .

And Delilah said to Samson, Tell me, I pray thee, wherein thy great strength lieth, and wherewith thou mightest be bound to afflict thee. Judges 16:6

And Samson said unto her, If they bind me with seven green withs that were never dried, then shall I be weak, and be as another man. Then the lords of the Philistines brought up to her seven green withs which had not been dried, and she bound him with them. Now there were men lying in wait, abiding with her in the chamber.   And she said unto him, The Philistines be upon thee, Samson. And he brake the withs, as a thread of tow is broken when it toucheth the fire. So his strength was not known. Judges 16:7-9

And Delilah said unto Samson, Behold, thou hast mocked me, and told me lies: now tell me, I pray thee, wherewith thou mightest be bound. And he said unto her, If they bind me fast with new ropes that never were occupied, then shall I be weak, and be as another man. Delilah therefore took new ropes, and bound him therewith, and said unto him, The Philistines be upon thee, Samson. And there were liers in wait abiding in the chamber. And he brake them from off his arms like a thread. Judges 16:10-12

And Delilah said unto Samson, Hitherto thou hast mocked me, and told me lies: tell me wherewith thou mightest be bound. And he said unto her, If thou weavest the seven locks of my head with the web. And she fastened it with the pin, and said unto him, The Philistines be upon thee, Samson. And he awaked out of his sleep, and went away with the pin of the beam, and with the web. And she said unto him, How canst thou say, I love thee, when thine heart is not with me? thou hast mocked me these three times, and hast not told me wherein thy great strength lieth.   Judges 16:13-15

And it came to pass, when she pressed him daily with her words,  and urged him, so that his soul was vexed unto death; That he told her all his heart, and said unto her, There hath not come a razor upon mine head; for I have been a Nazarite unto God from my mother’s womb: if I be shaven, then my strength will go from me, and I shall become weak, and be like any other man. And when Delilah saw that he had told her all his heart, she sent and called for the lords of the Philistines, saying, Come up this once, for he hath shewed me all his heart. Then the lords of the Philistines came up unto her, and brought money in their hand. Judges 16:16-18

And she made him sleep upon her knees; and she called for a man, and she caused him to shave off the seven locks of his head; and she began to afflict him, and his strength went from him. And she said, The Philistines be upon thee, Samson. And he awoke out of his sleep, and said, I will go out as at other times before, and shake myself. And he wist not that the LORD was departed from him. Judges16:19,20

By the time you realize you have been trapped you are ______________________ helpless

But the Philistines took him, and put out his eyes, and brought him down to Gaza, and bound him with fetters of brass; and he did grind in the prison house. Howbeit the hair of his head began to grow again after he was  shaven. Then the lords of the Philistines gathered them together for to offer a great sacrifice unto Dagon their god, and to rejoice: for they said, Our god hath delivered Samson our enemy into our hand. Judges 16:21-23

Three things that sin will do to the believer

1. Sin will always ____________you to the truth .

2. Sin will always _____________ you to the ungodly .

3. Sin will always ________________you into helplessness (drug addict girl.)

And when the people saw him, they praised their god: for they said, Our god hath delivered into our hands our enemy, and the destroyer of our country, which slew many of us. And it came to pass, when their hearts were merry, that they said, Call for Samson, that he may make us sport. And they called for Samson out of the prison house; and he made them sport: and they set him between the pillars. Judges 16:24,25